STOP Labeling Friendships!

Porche
4 min readAug 25, 2021

I cannot brand my friendships, nor will I label them since that is selfish.

Being a BESTfriend in 2021 with social media is so heavily focused on. Someone once told me in a Facebook group that it’s a human thing to be best-friends with someone. I don’t think labeling and wanting to be a friend or bestfriend is a human thing. Labeling is selfish. Just because someone has been your friend since grade school, does not mean they’re your best friend. It means you have been friends with them the longest.

I see about 30 posts a week about someone being a good or bad friend, they NEED a bestfriend, and a business bestie etc.

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Don’t get me wrong, the one person who I thought I would be bestfriends with for the rest of my life, I am no longer friends with and I am happy I am no longer friends with that person but it sure did make me cry. Crying, companionship, and of course emotion is a human thing but labeling is not.

I think people should focus on enjoying their own company and being their own friend before trying to dictate, and label friends.

Not everyone is met to take your journey with you. Everyone is met to come in your life for a reason. The reason could be a season, lifetime, or even to teach you a lesson. I truly believe God brings people in our lives to teach us lessons. No matter what the lesson could be, you learnt it and you will never forget that lesson or that person because you weren’t suppose to forget that person or that lesson.

That lesson taught you something that you would need later on in life, or you could pass along to someone else who could use it.

Because what is a GREAT friend?

I mean someone you can trust with your emotions, your car, around your husband or wife, around your children, someone you can be yourself with is a friend.

Someone who can tell you if your right or wrong and tell it to you in a concept that you will recognize you are right or wrong. That friend when you all can disagree to agree and still be friends is a great friend. Disagreements are healthy in any friendship. In fact, if I can disagree with you and the tone of your voice and body language stays the same, I would consider you to be a “friend.”

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Porche

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